SPECIAL TOUCHES FROM PREVIOUS WEDDING CEREMONIES
officiated by the Rev. Robin L. Zucker
Julianne and Dinakar weave Hindu rituals, such as
the Saptapadi, into their ceremony:
The most important part of the Hindu marriage ceremony is the Sap-tap-adi,
also known as the rite of seven steps. It is believed that when the bride
and groom walk seven steps together, they become forever friends. The
groom leads the couple, hand in hand, around the wedding fire as they
make seven promises to each other.
Seven Steps (spoken by the couple):
The first step: We vow to remain together through happiness and sadness,
united through whatever life may bring.
The second step: We promise to embrace each other’s families.
The third step: We commit to remaining forever faithful.
The fourth step: We promise to love, comfort, and nurture each other.
The fifth step: We shall come together spiritually, mentally, and emotionally.
The sixth step: We acknowledge God’s presence in our marriage and
in our lives.
The seventh step: We resolve to share all spiritual and moral activities.
Emily and Tom include a wine ceremony ( a “loving
At many times and among many people, wine has signified life’s sweetness
and abundance. For centuries and in many cultures, sharing a common cup
has been the symbol of a deep and intimate bond. May you be blessed by
life’s sweetness and abundance, and may whatever drops of bitterness
you encounter be lessened because you face them together.
Owen and Melissa’s enact a Sand Blending Ceremony:
Melissa and Owen, you have come together as partners here at the edge
of the sea and the sand to take your two separate lives and make of them
Tonight in this place, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring
of these two containers of sand, one representing you, Melissa, and all
that you were, all that you are, and all that you ever will be. And the
other representing you, Owen, and all that you were, all that you are,
and all that you ever will be. As these two containers of sand are poured
into a third container, the individual vessels of sand are now emptied
to be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be
separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your
Juris, Carrie and Carrie’s
daughter, Cecilia light a unity candle to symbolize their new family :
Ceremony: We'd like to ask Cecilia to come join us. Juris and Carrie,
you bring a child to this marriage. You are making a new family. Do you
affirm that this child is a sacred responsibility, and do you welcome
her into this new union with love and commitment? (We do)
Cecilia, your Mom and Juris love each other very much, and they love you
very much, too. Today they become husband and wife, and the three of you
become a new family. Will you wish them happiness, share their hopes,
and do all you can to help this new family love and help one another?
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The bride’s mother reads the famous “Love”
passage from Corinthians in Mandarin Chinese.
Nicole and Karl create a candlelit atmosphere on New Years
JP and Sue wed in the glow of their Christmas tree.
Ashish and Raluca: Eastern Orthodox ceremony with heirloom
In Raluca’s Rumanian tradition, these crowns signify the glory
and honor with which God crowns a couple during their wedding and subsequent
marriage. The groom and the bride are crowned as the king and queen of
their own little kingdom, the home, which they will rule with wisdom,
justice, and integrity.
Minister stands behind couple, takes the crowns and places them on the
heads of the bride and groom saying,
"O Lord, our God, crown them with glory and honor." "O
Lord, our God, crown them king and queen of their own little kingdom,
the home, to rule with wisdom, justice, and integrity, with glory and
Hannah and John include Hebrew prayers and Jewish traditions
in their interfaith ceremony
Grandparent's Candle: By joining your lives together, you bring a common
light of compassion, joy, and love into the world. In that spirit, Hannah
and John will now light a candle to honor their beloved grandparents:
Esther and Neal Olken, Esther and George Feldman, John and Mabel Pentz,
and James and Margaret Beers. (Candle is lit.)
General Blessing (Hebrew): Barucheem Habah-eem Beshame Adonai
Eve-do et Adonai Beh-seem-kah beooh l'fahnan
Brie-nah-nah me adeer all ha-coal me-baruch all ha-coal
Me gadole all ha-coal
Who-ya-vah-ureck et heh-ha-tan v'et ha caw-lah.
Blessed are you who come here in the name of God.
Serve God with joy, come into God's presence with song.
O most awesome, glorious and blessed God, grant your blessings to the
bride and groom. Amen.
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Steven and Catherine include a Catholic reading and
a special blessing from the family’s Priest in their interfaith
Remain in My Love (John 15:9-12)
A reading from the Holy Gospel according to John:
Jesus said to his disciples:
“As the father has loved me,
so I have loved you.
Remain in my love.
If you keep my commandments
you will remain in my love,
just as I have kept my Father’s commandments
and remain in his love.
I have told you this
so that my own joy may be in you
and your joy be complete.
This is my commandment:
love one another
as I have loved you. “
The gospel of the Lord.
Rob and Laura recite a love poem to one another in
Spanish and English:
My Love Reveals Objects , Isabel Fraire
my love reveals objects
concealed in his fingers
splash me with stars
night shines like lightning
under the fingers of my love
my love invents worlds where
jeweled glittering serpents live
worlds where music is the world
worlds where houses with open eyes
contemplate the dawn
my love is a mad sunflower that forgets
fragments of sun in the silence.
Mi amor descubre objetos
mi amor descubre objetos
se ocultan en sus dedos
me salpican de estrellas
bajo los dedos de mi amor la noche
brilla como relámpago
mi amor inventa mundos en que habitan
serpientes cuajadas de brillantes
mundos en que la música es el mundo
mundos en que las casas con los ojos abiertos
contemplan el amanecer
mi amor es un loco girasol que olvida
pedazos de sol en el silencio.
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Peter and Nicole’s Wishing Well ceremony:
Peter and Nicole will now make their way over to the wishing well. In
a minute we will follow them. Please take one of the flowers at the well
and place it in the well, while you offer your unique blessings for this
Gary and Lourdes marry under a Huppah, and include
the traditional Jewish glass breaking ceremony in their interfaith wedding:
Gary will now break a glass under his foot, a traditional Jewish ritual
with several meanings. First, it reminds us that the world is still broken,
despite the joy of this moment, and that we all have a responsibility
to mend it (Tikkun olum). The ritual also reminds us that marriage is
a transforming experience, one that leaves the couple forever changes.
The traditional response to the shattering of the glass is “Mazel
Tov” (Congratulations and Good Luck!) .